Dealing with problems.........

                                 Do you know?99.9% of times a problem is not actually a problem ,but our mind makes the situation so complex that it puzzles us.Now you may be thinking- "be in my position and then say that!".I know that we all go through difficult situations which sometimes leads to a big crisis.And like in those pc games you don't get "solve it " or "leave it as such" options,you  have to solve the problem no matter what, which puts added pressure on you.Most people in such situations , are under so much pressure that, they  loose their capability to think straight.Like my math teacher says, no problem is without a solution, you just have to put in some extra effort, that's all!There are no  Problems Solving Guides available for life, but still I would like to share some things that helped me a lot in dealing with my own life's problems.
Do not think when you too confused- Often when we have to take a major decision we start thinking too much.Maybe its the biggest decision of your life and you want to be a bit cautious.But let me tell you one thing, over-thinking never really works, it only confuses you further.Because it gets too hard for your brain to run so many stuffs at a time!So what you need to do is relax, take a deep breath, listen to some music, go to a peaceful place, and then think about each option, one at a time.Slowly the answers for the questions you had in your mind will start popping up on their own.
Write down whats right and what's wrong- Once you have relaxed and calmed down , you can take a notebook and write down the advantages and disadvantages of choosing each option.For example-if the decision is regarding quitting your job and choosing a new one, then write down the pay,self-content you get/may get from each job, and then compare its advantages and disadvantages.
Getting advice- While this is not the best thing you can do when you are confused, its still not a very bad option.Ask an elderly person at your home whom you think might have gone through the same/similar experiences.Try to understand how they dealt with the situation.But make sure that they don't force you into taking a decision which you are not satisfied with.
How would the decision influence your life?-Yet another exercise you can do when you are calm is to create a mental image of how your life would change, once you have taken a particular decision.Suppose you have 3 options available, take time, review each option and then try to create a mental image of how your life would change on choosing each of these options-do you see a happy you, or a sad you?,are you doing what you like and getting what you want?
Do not jump into any decision- This is the most important advice I can ever give!Sometimes we are too confused and too tired that we simply go with our guts and take a decision without much thinking.This is the worst thing anyone can do,and something which has happened to me several times.For the time being it may give you some relief , but do not forget the fact that you are the one who should live with your decision.
Wake early in the morning!-If you want to make a major decision and have some thinking to do, then the best time for it is early morning.dah! that's why I'm blogging at 4:30 am....just kiddin.But really, early morning is the best time to do any major decision making process.When you have just woken up from sleep, your mind is clean, other people's opinions have not influenced you yet, so your mind clearly knows what it wants.Plus the added freshness of the morning and the sweet aroma of the tea will definitely  brighten up your mood!
Once you have made a decision , don't regret it-Found my blog a bit too late?Have already made the decision?Then for heaven's sake don't regret it!That's the worst thing you can do!Think about what you can do now, a single decision can't turn your life upside down right?, or maybe it did.Anyways, now what you should do is think about how you can make it more enjoyable.Maybe your decision has affected one aspect of your life, but you still have control over the others.For example-maybe you decided to take up a new job, which was a bad decision.But you still have control over the other aspects of your life like friends, family etc.And most importantly do not loose hope and believe that things will get better.