Plan Your Day .Plan Happiness.

                                  Making a mind schedule:-

                                      Accept it, at some point of our life , we've decided to start live by a schedule and sooner or later have had to give up ; has happened to me several times."Walk at 5 " in your schedule and by the time you wake up, its already noon!So then how exactly do you live a planned life?Let me share with you a few tricks that worked for me!
                        1.Take it easy,do not over exert yourself.Its ok to wake one day and take a decision to live a planned and organized life but you should give your mind and body some time to get adjusted with this major change.Suppose you sleep a lot, and one day you decide to wake up at 6 and go for a walk, i wont say its impossible, but it can be really difficult- your muscles are not used to such workouts early in the morning , nor is your sleepy mind.Even if you make it, you may feel tired and sleepy all day long and all your other plans could get disturbed.
                                So start by making minor changes , don't try to take a big leap and change your habits on a single day.For instance start waking an hour earlier , if you usually wake up at 8 try waking up at 7 from today or at least at 7:30 and after every couple of weeks  you can cut half an hour of sleeping time from your schedule.Similarly after every couple of weeks you can increase your workout time by half an hour.So you will soon start finding time for many other essential things like spending time with your family, also you will feel more refreshed and pleasant than before.

              2.Try making a schedule in your mind and avoid writing it down if possible.When you keep this schedule in your mind rather than writing it down, you will unknowingly start following it at some point.Even if you are currently living an unplanned life,your mind is used to doing certain things at different times of the day.For example, if you start sleeping at noon for over a week, you will automatically start feeling sleepy at that time i.e our mind keeps a note of whatever we are doing  and it is these mental notes that eventually develop into habits.So when you deliberately create such mental notes i.e if you create and plan a daily schedule in your mind itself, it'll become much more easier for your mind to follow it.
              
              3.Break those mental blocks.As i said earlier your mind tend to create mental notes, so when you suddenly start acting against those habits , your mind will immediately start resisting, as now you are doing something out of its comfort zone / something its not used to.Breaking free of such mental obstacles is one of the major step towards becoming an organized person.Once you are through this phase, there's no stopping you.So next time you feel like grabbing the remote,jump into the treadmill and break some sweat!
                

           4.Create mental goals.Its the goals we create in our life that pushes us forward each day.So set a minor goal for this  week-for example tell yourself that by the end of this month you will loose 2kgs/something similar.This will motivate us to follow the schedule.But make sure that the goal you are setting is realistic and easy to reach.Big goals are good, but for the time being they can reduce your spirit as such goals can only be achieved over a large period of time and initially you may meet with failures.So keep it simple and set small goals.Ultimately, these small victories will help you achieve those big  goals.

A Happier Life :)

                 6 simple things you can do to stay happy-:)
              
     1.Do not think twice:-It is good to think well before taking any important decision in your life, but over-thinking is not gonna help you much.Most often it'll only lead you into further confusions. One thought will lead to the other and the other one to the next, and as each of these thoughts zoom through your mind so does your mood .Ever wondered why you are feeling less enthusiastic on a particular day without any reason?...well here's the answer-its due to your thoughts.Most of us tend to plan things well ahead of time, which is in a way good but each and every decision you make in your life will have an advantage and a disadvantage.So sometimes we should just stop overworking our mind , sit back relax and then come to a decision after consulting those you trust i.e, if you wanna stay happy!

          2.Sometimes not being a good listener is OK!:-If you have ever gone through a major crisis in your life and if you are most unfortunately blessed with a big family you might have probably gone through hours and hours of "advice" sessions.Its good to learn from others' experiences but if you feel like they are imposing their will upon you , stop listening immediately or at least mentally ignore them.Because at the end ,your own opinion/will is gonna  get lost as you are too busy listening to other's opinions.What you actually need to do is at least for a while stop listening to what others are telling you and try to listen to what your self is telling you.Because at the end of the day it is your life and you are the one who should live it!

           3.Stop comparing, right now!:-This is something which half of us do and the funny part is that we may not even realize that its wrong.Have you ever compared yourself to others and thought how unlucky you are when "COMPARED" to them? Then that's the dumbest thing we humans do.Look at your life and his -were you both brought up in the same manner?,do you think the same way as he/she does?,do you have the same talents as him/her?did he/she have a rough childhood just like you?.........the answer is quiet obviously no.You both are different so will your success be. Even if you are comparing yourself to your identical twin there will be some difference between you both and that's the reason why you both are considered as individuals.If all the human beings thought alike/talked alike and reacted similarly to various situations then you can of course compare yourselves with them, but thats not the case - so never ever compare yourself to others and conclude that you are a loser.
         
             4.Once you have done it , don't regret it!:-Did you know that half of the humans waste 1/3rd of their lives regretting their past deeds?...i was just kidding, but who knows? maybe its true.Sometimes even if we think and rethink a thousand times, we end up making the wrong moves.Regretting is in a way good as it will help us remain more cautious in  future.But the reality is-there's no use in crying over spilled milk.Yes, there's absolutely nothing you can do about it!To stop regretting is one of the hardest goals to achieve...ask me!...but once you get over it you will feel a lot relieved.The first step towards forgetting the past is to stop talking and thinking about it.Come to the present,live in the present and think about the present.Then no matter how hard the failure was, you will recover from it within no time.
            
      5.Come to real life,then start socializing:- One of the most common error we humans do is that we give more importance to our virtual friends than the real ones.We spend hours updating our fb status,chatting with online friend(half of them who are total strangers) so that we could keep our fb account "live".Ok so just take a moment and think-if you wake up tomorrow and find yourself in an extremely terrible situation , how many of these "virtual friends" will be there for your help?...honestly , half of my most intimate fb friends wont even care to smile when they see me in reality.Well lets face the truth....the only bond you have is with your real life friends and family.The one you make online is only "virtual" as they call it.So snap out of your imaginary land, step into the real one and then socialize and make some "real friends".Maybe you are a shy person and dislike interacting with real life people and situations, but at the end of the day ...its these people and situations you have to live with!Hiding in your own virtual land will only make you more shy.
           
            6.Cry,Its alright!:-You might be thinking -"cry?to be happy? what .....on earth?" But its the truth,the happiness and bliss crying can give you is un-explainable. We are human beings,we need to let out our emotions in one way or the other...bolting them up will only worsen the situation.So next time you feel like the pain is overwhelming,go to someone you trust/go sit somewhere alone and just let your pain,anger and fear flow out-its alright, no one is watching you!

         
          

Love What You Dislike...

                                 Living With The Things You Hate.

                       I've spend half of my life wondering when  I will  get the "ideal life" I've always dreamed of?Because i always used to find one or the other fault with my life.And like most of you i used to hate my life, because i was always forced to do the things i "don't like".But the truth is that nobody in the world is completely happy with the life they have ,all are forced to do certain things they dislike for their welfare or others'. Today you may not be happy with your workplace, and once you quit it you may feel angry with yourself  for not being able to support your family, this will only cause further troubles.So what you need to do is tell yourself that this discomfort is temporary and one day the perfect job/the opportunity is gonna come in search of you (not that you should quit trying).Maybe the people in your current life hate you / maybe you are forced to stay away from your family for some reason.But this is no justification for you giving up because all those successful people whom you look up to had to pass through this phase before becoming what they are now.Imagine -what if they had given up then?.I'm not a very successful person but whatever I've achieved in my life came to me only after i learnt being happy with what i have.You just don't want to be successful, what you actually want is happiness.All the goals we have set in our life is for getting that happy and peaceful life.But let me tell you one disappointing thing- success never brings happiness , the only thing it brings is the need for more.So one of the most important preparations for getting that "ideal successful life" is learning to live with the small discomforts of your life.Even if you are proclaimed  the "king of the universe" you will still remain unsatisfied if you are not happy with the life you have this moment.As a result you are most likely to get trapped in the vicious cycle of happiness hunt.....it goes on and on;the end result-you are never happy.
                            Let me tell you a few things that helped me through the tough times.The first thing i did is tell myself  -"i love what I'm doing".Sometimes the notion that we hate something is so dominant in our head that we forget its good sides.You may feel like you hate your current life - but try discovering its good sides , I'm sure u'll figure  a few out.Do this for over a week and find yourself falling in love with the life you have!
                             Secondly, never ever try to run away from those things you hate.Obviously any human would try to run away from the things he/she dislikes but this is impossible when your whole life revolves around that one thing/when its an important part of your life.What i did and what many others do is they try and create an imaginary world and start living on it.This is never ever gonna work because at the end all you have got is the real life and not the one in your head. Internet addiction,drug abuse, and all such addictions rise from this dissatisfaction with life.So all you can do is try face those "discomfortable situations", don't run away from them, and at some point you'll get adapted to it.You may feel a bit uncomfortable at first but tell yourself that it is temporary.
                         Thirdly,bring down your expectations.We all have  expect a lot from people,situations and ourselves and often we are not even aware of these expectations.Sometimes dissatisfaction rises from over expectation, this was true in my case.Maybe you are not the most popular guy at school and maybe your boss doesn't consider you as his most intelligent employee but these are not the things essential for a happy life and nor will popularity or rewards keep you happy in the long run.As i said before they will only ignite in you a desire for more and its never gonna keep you happy.All it can do is  instill  a feeling of superiority in you which will further force you to isolate yourself from the "common crowd".Also if you just study those "lucky people"  among  you , you will discover that they are just as dissatisfied and uncomfortable with their life as you are but in a different way.So embrace your life its simply wonderful!
                     Never give up on your dreams and aspirations-I did ask you to remain satisfied with your life but not give up wishing for that "ideal life".Keep working as hard as you can to get that life you have always dreamed of . It'll not only help you get closer to your goals but will also make your present happier as it shows  a new ray of hope.You may meet with failures in the way but never hold them up as excuses for quitting b'coz for you, nothing is impossible.
                       I've mentioned this in my old post and I'm saying it again-"If you are not happy with the life you have ,you will never be happy with the life you get, no matter how good/bad it is"-just keep this in your mind and live the life you have to the fullest!

Art Of Happiness

                          Happy And I Know It.............!!!

               You might be surprised to know that a girl who had undergone severe depression twice in her lifetime and at very young age had  finally  taken up the task of  creating  an inspirational blog!!I know that many of you are starting to feel better already.....just kidding! But there is one advantage i have over the "normal" people.... i learnt to "VALUE" happiness ...and most importantly i mastered "The Art Of Happiness", in fact all of you have already mastered it only thing is that  we often  "forget" it or we simply avoid those simple facts we are already aware of !

                If you guys are looking for "instant happiness" sorry i can never ever give you that ....but yes, i can tell you a few changes i made in my life...that changed my life forever and ever!!! I stopped a few habits and i brought up a few new ones and with a few corrections here and there....i no more needed the "ideal life" that i always dreamed of to stay happy.

         

                1)   Stop searching outside and  look inside!!!-

                              This is actually the quote by a great spiritual master...but what i mean here is totally different from what he said.Half of you might be reading this post for something you call "inspiration"...A few years back i was the same as you , trying to gain some "inspiration.There was a day when i watched "pursuit of happiness" thrice (on a single day) to get "inspired" and change my life forever...i know it sounds totally dumb but at that point of my life it made complete sense...and yea  i did stay inspired for the next 24 hrs ...but after a good night's sleep i was back into the "actual me".I know this is kinda changing into a self confession blog but all I'm trying to say here is stop trying to get "inspired"...i know it works, but only for the time being.So what you can do is next time you feel like getting "inspired"..look into your own life...take a look at all the hurdles YOU have passed through....look at yourself as a hero......its totally true "a hero lies in you".And then you are gonna feel strong and passionate like never before....i can guarantee you that.You don't necessarily have to be an orphan abandoned by step dad to feel that way...take a look at the simple things you have achieved in your life.....maybe what you are facing now is a lot bigger than all those...but trust me if you can do that...you can definitely do this!

           

           2)You create your own fate, so tell them~~~~ "stop talking crap!!!"-

                                 Do you wanna be a singer?...a writer?...a cook?....a dancer?...and do you terribly suck at it?....do people discourage you?...do people tell you you'll never be what you wanna be?....then if you can't afford to "displease" them...at least IGNORE them...because you create your own fate ...yes you heard it right...you are the master of your destiny.With true devotion,passion and hard work you can be whatever you wanna be even if you are 90.And never ever stop doing it because that's the first rule of staying happy----do the things you like, and for the time being you can be selfish and do whatever you like no matter how good or bad you are at it.Cook your heart  out don't care about the buzzing smoke alarm,sing your heart out...who cares about the neighbours?...they are always complaining anyway.And you know what? if you do something with that much passion ...there's no stopping you !!People discourage you b'coz they don't know the "true" you...and now they think you are gonna end up being nothing......so get your butt moving and show them what you are!

        3)Think : "I can  be..............." 

                                                                          

           You might probably laugh at this , but a few years back i had this crazy belief that if i think something negatively ..I'm gonna get a positive result.Like if i want the day to be sunny I'll think "Oh! its surely gonna rain"....because i had a belief that if i think so it'll remain sunny.I know it sounds crazy but the truth is many others think the same ... I'm not kidding at all..i have met a lot of people with the same view and many of them didn't even find it "abnormal".But later i found out that they are right but the only difference is that its their "belief " that if they think negatively they are gonna end up with a positive result that helped them rather than the negative thinking.You might ask then why shouldn't i do that like those guys did?yes you are right those guys were totally normal except for the fact that i met most of them  while i was undergoing treatment for depression at a mental health clinic.So its the second simple rule-wanna stay happy?-think positively. That's it guys..."belief"........you are what you believe you are.So if you think "you can"..then "you can" if "no" then "no"...easy as that.So from today think ..."i can" and if you have any crazy beliefs like mine....drop em ASAP.
     
         4) wanna change something about yourself?.....please don't do that!
   
                      Yes.... if you feel like there's something you should change about yourself (other than your behavioral faults) please don't do it! Its human nature that we'll never be satisfied with what we have or what we are...heard about those plastic surgery addicts?...and at the end they are left with nothing but regret!Today you may feel like..."after shedding those extra pounds, I'm never gonna complain again"...and after getting that wish done you may find fault with your nose, your toes and the cycle goes on...the end result is that you will never be happy.There are also chances of failures which will only push you into further troubles.So what you should do is relax take a deep breath, put on a broad smile and look at all the good things in your life and tell yourself that your imperfect nose or flabby belly does not change who you are.... nor is anyone gonna hate you due to it....and most importantly tell yourself that you are happy with the way you are.What  people actually care about is your character , looks are secondary ...so if you really wanna stay confident and happy its not your looks that you need to change but your character.

      5)you can dream...but don't live on those dreams!
         
                We all have a very big goal in our life maybe that's becoming a famous actor,singer writer or a billionaire .Having such goals are good like they say, "aim for the stars you'll at least reach the trees".But  this principle actually will not work if we stop dreaming and start fantasizing.What most of us do is as we are unsatisfied with the life we have, we start creating such big dreams and goals and start living on them.The problem here is that you forget to live in the moment.And obviously the end result is that you'll never be happy.Tell yourself one important thing "if i am not happy with the life i have I'll never be happy with the life I get no matter how good or bad it is"...this is what always worked for me.


      6) Give happiness!...take happiness!.
                  Its the basic universal law....you get happiness as you give it.Most of us are so self centered that all we care about is our problems and our worries, we'll have a thousand reasons for shouting at others but we often forget that they too are a part of this planet and are humans with similar problems and worries as you or maybe they are experiencing even bigger problems.So next time you feel like dumping your stress by shouting at someone remember that you get happiness as you give it...."dumping" your anger will only make the situation worse.The same principle works when someone shouts at you.....even if you are innocent stay calm , take a deep breath ...remind yourself that their anger is their problem you don't have to worry about it or if you feel you are guilty give the person some time and once he/she is calm...try apologizing ,you'll feel content and happy like never before,trust me!

     7)If you can't take it ..take a break!
                     
                         This is one of the most important stuff you can practice, if you feel like the stress is overwhelming...please don't bear it , no matter how important the program you have taken up is, take a break go somewhere or at least find a peaceful spot at home,put on some music and relax.If you don't do this, chances are that you are gonna break down at one point/the other.So just take a deep breath , relax and smile...you don't own all the problems in the world!
 
          8)Don't get addicted to anything other than yourself..
               
                   Earlier i asked you guys to do whatever you like and not care about the world but there is an exception there...."doing whatever you like" does not include drinking,smoking,extreme partying and acting like others are non-existent.You think that these give you "happiness" but that's not real happiness and once the pleasure from those are gone, you'll be back into your old self, much like the "inspiring movies" and you are likely to be much more depressed and confused.What you want is happiness not an illusion that you are happy.So just quit those "stuff" which you think gives you pleasure......because happiness is something which only you can create -"YOU".Maybe its not the most easy task on earth , but with constant efforts you can do anything.....by anything i mean..."ANYTHING".One of the things that helped me while trying to quit my internet addiction was restoring my self-esteem.I discovered the things i was good at and  whenever i felt like switching on my laptop ..i would grab my pen and write whatever i felt, then i would post it on fb and some of my intimate friends encouraged me to write more and i finally felt like I'm not "useless" like i feel and maybe with some effort i can be something in life....and in a few months i realized that i can be happy without any of those external "pleasure supply " sources.Another thing that worked for me was doing other things that I Equally liked like talking with my friend/taking a good walk this helped me distract my mind at least for the time being.
   
    9) open up.....not all are conspiring against you!
             
                       One of the most important thing that helped me was opening up about my problems to someone i trust.I was a very introvert person and as a writer it has helped me a lot but not at all times.One of the most important reasons why i went into depression was not trusting anyone.I would never ever let anyone know whats in my mind...and at the same time i complained of  being unhappy...how contrary!....then when I finally trusted someone and let all my burdens out I felt so light at heart like never before.Trust someone or at least something...! If you cant trust anyone in real life get online, find a stranger tell him whatever you want .....don't reveal your identity,even that'll help or the best option is to meet a councilor if you can.

   10)Embrace your life!
         
                    Last but not the least love yourself!I didn't mention this earlier because this may sound a bit difficult at first.I did ask you to do the things you like but there's no point in finding happiness in those if you are dissatisfied with yourself.So everyday find some time ,take a deep breath lean back relax and do nothing.Look at yourself and appreciate all the good qualities in yourself...think about your bad qualities and work on how you can change them.Review all the happenings of that day and appreciate yourself for all the good works, look at your mistakes and find out where you went wrong.Most importantly forgive yourself for the mistakes you have done/bad qualities you have...because just like others you too are a human and can go wrong at some points.Finally tell yourself that you are amazing no matter what others think of you!