Love What You Dislike...

                                 Living With The Things You Hate.

                       I've spend half of my life wondering when  I will  get the "ideal life" I've always dreamed of?Because i always used to find one or the other fault with my life.And like most of you i used to hate my life, because i was always forced to do the things i "don't like".But the truth is that nobody in the world is completely happy with the life they have ,all are forced to do certain things they dislike for their welfare or others'. Today you may not be happy with your workplace, and once you quit it you may feel angry with yourself  for not being able to support your family, this will only cause further troubles.So what you need to do is tell yourself that this discomfort is temporary and one day the perfect job/the opportunity is gonna come in search of you (not that you should quit trying).Maybe the people in your current life hate you / maybe you are forced to stay away from your family for some reason.But this is no justification for you giving up because all those successful people whom you look up to had to pass through this phase before becoming what they are now.Imagine -what if they had given up then?.I'm not a very successful person but whatever I've achieved in my life came to me only after i learnt being happy with what i have.You just don't want to be successful, what you actually want is happiness.All the goals we have set in our life is for getting that happy and peaceful life.But let me tell you one disappointing thing- success never brings happiness , the only thing it brings is the need for more.So one of the most important preparations for getting that "ideal successful life" is learning to live with the small discomforts of your life.Even if you are proclaimed  the "king of the universe" you will still remain unsatisfied if you are not happy with the life you have this moment.As a result you are most likely to get trapped in the vicious cycle of happiness hunt.....it goes on and on;the end result-you are never happy.
                            Let me tell you a few things that helped me through the tough times.The first thing i did is tell myself  -"i love what I'm doing".Sometimes the notion that we hate something is so dominant in our head that we forget its good sides.You may feel like you hate your current life - but try discovering its good sides , I'm sure u'll figure  a few out.Do this for over a week and find yourself falling in love with the life you have!
                             Secondly, never ever try to run away from those things you hate.Obviously any human would try to run away from the things he/she dislikes but this is impossible when your whole life revolves around that one thing/when its an important part of your life.What i did and what many others do is they try and create an imaginary world and start living on it.This is never ever gonna work because at the end all you have got is the real life and not the one in your head. Internet addiction,drug abuse, and all such addictions rise from this dissatisfaction with life.So all you can do is try face those "discomfortable situations", don't run away from them, and at some point you'll get adapted to it.You may feel a bit uncomfortable at first but tell yourself that it is temporary.
                         Thirdly,bring down your expectations.We all have  expect a lot from people,situations and ourselves and often we are not even aware of these expectations.Sometimes dissatisfaction rises from over expectation, this was true in my case.Maybe you are not the most popular guy at school and maybe your boss doesn't consider you as his most intelligent employee but these are not the things essential for a happy life and nor will popularity or rewards keep you happy in the long run.As i said before they will only ignite in you a desire for more and its never gonna keep you happy.All it can do is  instill  a feeling of superiority in you which will further force you to isolate yourself from the "common crowd".Also if you just study those "lucky people"  among  you , you will discover that they are just as dissatisfied and uncomfortable with their life as you are but in a different way.So embrace your life its simply wonderful!
                     Never give up on your dreams and aspirations-I did ask you to remain satisfied with your life but not give up wishing for that "ideal life".Keep working as hard as you can to get that life you have always dreamed of . It'll not only help you get closer to your goals but will also make your present happier as it shows  a new ray of hope.You may meet with failures in the way but never hold them up as excuses for quitting b'coz for you, nothing is impossible.
                       I've mentioned this in my old post and I'm saying it again-"If you are not happy with the life you have ,you will never be happy with the life you get, no matter how good/bad it is"-just keep this in your mind and live the life you have to the fullest!